The ACOA Laundry List These are some characteristics we seem to have in common due to being brought up in an alcoholic household. Many of us are familiar with the “ACA Characteristics” or “Laundry List” of ACA behaviors. Here is a more in depth description of behaviors. THE LAUNDRY LISTS WORKBOOK Integrating Our Laundry List Traits for Adult Children of Alcoholics / Dysfunctional Families [ACA WSO] on

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Adult Children Of Alcoholics/ ACAs ACOAs ACODFs Blog: Beyond The “Laundry List”

We confuse love with pity and tend to “love” people who we can pity” and “rescue” 10 We cannot recognize our true feelings or the true feelings of others so we deny that we are wrong. Odatguy rated it really liked it May 29, Emilia Seniuk marked it as to-read Launry 18, If we lived our life from the viewpoint of a victim Trait 5then many of lzundry have become persecutors or perpetrators who created victims.


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A dysfunctional family is a family system based on “denial” or “shame-based rules” in which there is always an avoidance of confrontation and inability to resolve conflict. We judge ourselves harshly and have a very low sense of self-esteem.

The Adult Children of Alcoholics Laundry List | Alcohol Self-Help News

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The Other Laundry List

I am 72 years old, raised four children, which were born before I was twenty one years of age, in a home where the father became an alcoholic and drug user. Miceal Corcoran added it Jan 06, We judge ourselves harshly and have a very low sense of self-esteem 12 We come to think of others as part of ourselves and we cannot tolerate their separation or independence.

These examples represent the reverse side of the Laundry List. Published November 1st by Health Communications first published We frighten people with our anger and threat of belittling criticism. You are commenting using your Facebook account. Claudia Black 1 dr.


We can stay hidden when taking the offensive. We do not need to shame ourselves or dive into self-condemnation, but we must be honest about our behavior.

The Laundry List: The ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics) Experience

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Some of us have used laundrj violent cursing with threats of physical harm to intimidate others. We become addicted to excitement. We can feel shame or disgust when we think about our actions. Laurie Mertz rated it it was amazing Aug 13, We live life from the standpoint of a victimizer, and are attracted to people we can manipulate and control in our important relationships.